EIGHT ELEMENTS OF GREAT RELATIONSHIP

 These elements helps to review our effectiveness in a relationship or friendship. It reminds us of those qualities that we need for great and better relationship with friends or people around us. Great relationship should act as fuel to our goals and objectives as human. It should be interesting, something we should be hungry after. Relationship is all about choice, to make it great consider the below:

TRUST

In any relationship, for there to be less control and more freedom there ought to be trust. Without trust there is truly no relationship, because there will be no connection. Trust begins within us, it creates confident and without it there is always the presents of fear. It’s human to conceive fear sometimes, but is weakness to allow fear to dominate our thought. Whenever we are afraid in a relationship we become detectives. We carefully watch traces without knowing or putting into consideration the harm we cause the other through our fears of them. Fear destroy that mutual acceptance that builds our level of understanding in the other person. At this point when you have yield in to your fears is better you let go. Trust can be dangerous sometimes, but is always worth it if directed to the right person. When we trust there is always a benefit for trusting; the lesson and the joy of knowing someone truly. To enjoy someone company, you have to trust them. To understand someone you have to listen to them. The best way to find out if you can trust someone is to trust them. In order to have story in life, you have to live it. You can’t learn of someone without getting to grant them that privilege of trust. If people like you they will listen to you, but if they trust you they will do business with you. Great relationships are built on a foundation of trust. Trust is the fundamental of any great relationship. Often times it takes time to build and very difficult to regain when lost. Without trust relationship of any kind will fail. The feeling of safety is the greatest benefit of trust, once you trust; you enjoy this easy living that leads to understanding with someone. Your life is more simplified when you are around those you trust and that trust you. You experience the feeling of safety. Trustful relationship; is inspiring, it’s comfortable, it’s peaceful and there is closeness and understanding. It reflects in your willingness to listen and to feel in deep consciousness with one another. Trust connect people into a web that create great relationships. Trust generates instant confident on people. It’s often in the absence of fear. Trust and fear does not exist together. Once there is fear there is no trust. Our mind always move us to trust someone, trust truly begins in the mind. If your thought about someone is positive, you have high tendency to trust them. To trust anyone your mind must be positive towards them. A better understanding of self can enable us to trust others. Most often people develop a bad concept that makes it impossible for them to trust anyone. If you don’t trust anybody how can you interact in the real sense of it? Trusting is still the best thing to do, whether a friendship or relationship all bonds are built on trust. So, for relationship to be great the trust have to remain constant, as consistent as time.

KINDNESS

Consideration, care and compassion speak very loud in any relationship where there is kindness. There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with kindness, respect and generosity. The absence of kindness is wickedness. Kindness is more important than wisdom in relationship. It provides the room for acceptance and great understanding. The smallest act of kindness is worth more than millions of great intentions that is not known. Kindness is very effective in relationship, it show commitment and concern. It rewards don’t come immediately but surely it will be noticeable and appreciated someday. For any relationship to go on smoothly there is need to be kind to each other. Kindness is a sign of strength not weakness. Many assume being kind make you foolish or vulnerable. Kindness blesses the one that received it and the one that gives it. As the sun makes the ice to melt, so the act of kindness melts any soul. Constant kindness can accomplish much in any relationship. A warm smile to a broken heart can be a great act of kindness. Kindness shown towards someone can make their day so beautiful. It has its way of making any relationship great. Kindness makes way for trust and understanding when shown rightly. Kindness is like a rainbow, it shows the beginning of new things in relationship. Anytime kindness is shown it renews the mind and creates the impression of better things to come into the relationship. Kindness is loving people more than they deserve. It makes people feel joyful when you show them how much they matter in life or in a relationship. Kindness heals the soul faster them any medication. Relationship without the act of kindness is nothing but wickedness and can lead to frustration. Great relationship are those relationship loaded with great act of kindness. It makes relationship worthwhile.

TEAM WORK

Once the consciousness of the mind is kept simple and open when on interaction, it literate us the privilege to access resources from one another when working as a team. It commune us in respect for one another, fostering unity among selves. In relationships working together is either; for personal interest or group interest. It becomes harmful when is completely for personal interest. When it’s for the growth and success of other team members, there will always be a way you can benefit from it, whether directly or indirectly. There is nothing encapsulating like having a workable partner. Not someone that has it all, but someone that functions effectively in almost everything, making room for great understanding why working along with. Someone with ideas, courage and strength to persevere; someone that appreciates gesture and believes in friendship. Someone that is ever willing to learn new things, which derive pleasure in trying out new things. That when you truly understands the importance of relationship. They don’t feel so troubled when challenged. A solution initiator, in any relationship once these great qualities are found, we find it difficult to let go. The issue is not holding on, it’s duplicating similar qualities that make everything perfect. All human qualities are learnable. For partnering to be effective both parties must be hungry for advancement and growth. But before any people can work together they must agree, there must be connection and acceptance. This grows into a united web, where they work things out and learn from each other. Coming together is unity, working together is greater success and staying together is progress when sustained. Those that classify others in a web of friendship don't get along well. Nothing as adorable as a friend that understands the true meaning of friendship.

 OPENNESS

The best form of conservation is heart to heart conservation. Everyone is vulnerable. Vulnerability attracts trust, honesty and openness. With openness souls are connected. The more open people are, the better the world; because people with more information can make better decision and have greater impact. A perfect connection with people brings about unity and trust, which makes room for openness and honesty. Once there is trust in a relationship there will be openness. Once all parties are vulnerable they are compel naturally to be honest and sincere. Nothing and no topic is special or official, you say it how it is. Your respect each other and fully aware of the level of trust you owe each other. You never complain or criticize behind each other back. Openness is good for those that understand the true meaning of friendship. It’s good for friends that are not into any form of life competition. Friends that truly connected are truly open to each other. A friend that shows concern and willing to stay on to resolve challenges with you deserve your openness. But, unfortunately some may only stay to fine out, but never willing to solve any puzzle; that makes it difficult for a lot of people to be open. If you are the only one vulnerable soon you realize it and go into your shield. Openness is best when is a two way, not one sided. You share and sort out challenges directly and not with others, by selling out trust of the other. Whenever you have a friend that speaks honestly, think sincerely and act with integrity you have no need to draw back, such a friend deserve your openness. Sometimes we create our own heart break by huge expectation from people. We expect people to change; change can only come to a willing heart. If someone is not willing and making personal effort towards changes they can’t truly change. Changes don’t come through words. It takes discipline to effect change. Once you earn the trust of someone guide your lips, because often times it’s the lips that destroy our level of trust with people. If someone brings you into the concave of their lives, don’t make them look stupid by assuming that they owe the same level of friendship with everyone. Friendships are set by limits and all friends don’t have same closeness. Your closeness with someone is determine by; trust, ability to work together, honesty and openness. Apparently is very good to be transparent, because through transparency you earn trust and sincere friendship. Our personal brand should be transparent to those we call friends, it earns us their trust and confident. Once there is trust, honest, integrity and sincerity in a relationship or friendship there will be openness. Openness makes relationship secured and safe. But is very good not to betray trust, once you privilege to earn the inside circle of someone life, don’t ever assume anything they discuss with you is public talk. Take everything you do with them personal, that the best way to sustain trust and great friendship.

 RESPECT

Our willingness to accept responsibilities for our own lives is where self-respect strings. Whenever we stay simplified and understandable with a great sense of contentment we earn respect from others, whether in friendship or in relationship. We recognize the humanity in others and show them the required attention and understanding. Those who have great sense of integrity, honesty and sincerity earn respect easily. Respect for people don’t mean they are perfect, it means you are matured enough to know that every human have their imperfections. It means that you know that mutual understanding has nothing to do with status. Its means you understand the importance of friendship. It means that you have value for others. The main purpose for any formal learning is to enhance man’s dignity and Self-Respect. If the real sense of education is applied in every endeavor the world will be a better place to live. Learning reforms believes and concepts which when appropriately applied earn us the integrity and respect, while working with others in friendship or in relationship. Truly the more understanding you have about the universe and self, the better your self-esteem and respect. Being strict is not self-esteem; self-esteem is having regard for self. Strictness is placing limit on self. If we truly understand ourselves and the universe we can’t place limit on ourselves, because we need some level of simplicity to access a lot of great things. Once we recognize the limitations of being human and understood so well that human are only main to work towards perfection, then we learn to see others for who they are. We stop setting limits for relationship or friendship. We often expect to focus our expectation on certain level to earn our respect, or assume some criteria for respect. The better our knowledge of humanity and the universe the better our self-esteem and respect for others. Self-value, start from our thought and manifest through our actions. The things we do determine if we can earn respect from friendship or relationship; be it in business relationship or friendship. Your attitude, self-value and your value for others earn you respect when in relationship or friendship with them. There is nothing as special in the world than knowing how to belong to oneself. Those that have self-respect, value relationship or friendship, they respect their partners or others in relationship or friendship.

 JOY

Whenever we feel loved, naturally our brain triggers us into excitement. We are excited anytime we feel comfortable or satisfied about our partner’s attitude or activities. Great relationships uplift our spirit and make us feel loved and accepted, which undoubtedly brings joy to our soul. Once this feeling dominates our mind, we constantly rejoice over anything we found funny. Joy is invoking of emotions that brings about satisfaction, pleasure and appreciation. This emotion can make us more relaxed, more productive and open in the relationship or friendship. These emotions can be sustained if we can recognize and appreciate how we make others feel when we love them. Though people are happy for different reasons, but once it relates to emotions of another person we in friendship or relationship with, there is need to ensure their joy is truly triggered by their satisfaction towards us, not just to ease us explanations. Feeling satisfied about someone doesn’t mean they have everything; it means you are comfortable with them and the way they make you feel. Frankly, laugher or happiness can't be imposed on someone; it can only be triggered effortlessly. If your companionship or presents don't make your partner happy, you can't force them to react otherwise. Joy is a reaction out of satisfaction; it leads to appreciation and pleasure. It is easier to convince someone you can trigger to happiness than someone that hardly smiles to your best jokes. Smiles or happiness is a great sign of acceptance when in contact with people. If you can't make them smile or laugh naturally, there is higher tendency that you are not welcome. Joy establishes union, before the union will be officially established. Joy introduces the comfort that bring people closer. It makes communication in relationship more understandable and acceptable. Whenever we feel happy about people we are willing to trust them. We are naturally comfortable with them. Our confident grow for them and we are willing to listen to them no matter what. All these help to strengthen our relationship and friendship. Truly nobody can be happy every minute and seconds of the day, yet joy is the best meal for the soul; therefore is good to play back memories, see reasons or reproduce reasons to enjoy each other company. If we truly understand that living is only a privilege it will produce a heart of gratitude in us that will preserve our happiness to always appreciate those around us and those we are in relationship or friendship with.

 CLOSENESS/ INTIMACY

Intimacy and proximity make room for deep knowledge of one another. It enables us to know each other and understand in reality what our boundaries are as human; our strengths and weakness. It helps us conform and define our friendship. It gives us unlimited access to one another, nurture and strengthens our friendship or relationship. Closeness makes familiarization easier for everyone. It give you that room to understand someone true feeling and emotions. Closeness is a desire that people builds, after that connection of establishing any friendship; it takes constant interaction to establish closeness. To be close to someone you must appreciate their company. It’s through appreciating their company that often times leads to closeness. To be well connected; your thinking and demands at often times could be similar. If the other party like to lounge in the same way with you, then is mutual and the closeness could be establish through such desire. One of the most beautiful and adorable thing in friendship is that; friends are friends because they want to be, they choose each other and are comfortable with each other. For friends to be truly close something must be bringing them together. There must be something they both enjoy doing together. Something they both find interesting; it could be activities or anything, but they both must enjoy it before it could be a source for their closeness or friendship. Whether people hold onto their old friends or grow apart, it does all about if they have something, activity or interest that can keep them together. Closeness has nothing to do with distance. Friendships are been maintained by interest, dedication and communication. Often, interest and activities is what keep people close. If in a friendship or relationship there is no common activity or interest that brings you together or what you must discuss together soon the closeness will fade away. Closeness is determine by interest, Interest determine our activities and associates. Friends that are compatible have similar interest, which enables them to enjoy individual company. Great relationships have this understanding in their interest that makes them inseparable. They appreciate each other why they enjoy their interest. This makes it possible to continuously appreciate the relationship or friendship. It is not time or opportunity that determines people intimacy; its disposition and interest. If you don’t have same interest with someone, even if you tried to be close to them for years you can’t. But you can be close to someone you have same interest with within a week. Intimacy makes us unveil ourselves with all freedom and trust. Intimacy makes us weird with someone and that person must find it okay, because they found us faultless. There is nothing more intimate in life like being understood, that make closeness in relationship great.

  

FORGIVENESS

Every unresolved issue in relationship or friendship leads people to rend. Issues unresolved can generate lack of trust, fear and insecurity in relationship; it can create lack of confident and can make one party distance self from another. Holding back is as a result of lack of trust or confident in friendship. Un-forgiveness frustrates friendship or relationship. It leads to resentment and disappointment. It erodes trust and drain the mind of positive thought. It destroys creative ability and can withhold destiny as long as it last. Once you are hurt and deeply felt hurt in your consciousness; that alone can create a negative emotion that can deprive you of a lot of great things. Wicked people hurt you to frustrate you, to set your mind into negative thought and make you wallow in pains and bitterness. It is wisdom to forgive; Forgiveness makes the mind free of negative thoughts and enables you to think freely. When you forgive is for your good. A lot of people hurt you to draw you backward by creating that bad imagination into your subconscious mind. In fact those without emotions or those that can practically subdue their emotions can’t be stopped. Forgive and grow. You can only grow in life when you mind is growing positively. Forgiveness does not necessary mean you will reconnect, it means you empty your mind of negative imaginations to create room for positive thinking. When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than any solid material. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. Forgiveness don’t change the past, it only enlarge your future. Forgiveness allows you to think freely and rightly. It is necessary to let things go, simply because they are heavy, un-forgiveness is as heavy as a rock; you can’t carry it and still carry your dreams. Forgiveness is light, it help to light up your destiny. If you fail to forgive someone, it does not have any practical effect on that person. Often wickedness is planned to bring you down, so don't allow anyone to drag you into un-forgiveness, because you will unknowingly give the individual room to destroy you by granting them access into your subconscious mind. Don’t keep emotional relationship or friendship with someone that don’t believe in trust or friendship. Avoid someone with the trust nobody mentality; once they think there is no trust and repeatedly say it, that an indication that they can’t trust you and they don’t value your friendship. Before you are hurt be careful with people with negative concept about friendship or relationship, so you don’t push yourself to the trap and expect to change their concept. Concept is personal and can only be changed by the person. Definitely they will drain you, destroy you and rejoice over it, if you stick to them. But when you found yourself in such, just forgive and understand their kind of breed. Forgiveness is still the best thing to do, but in relationship or friendship; the more people hurt you, the faster they empty their emotional bank with you. Our subconscious mind registers both kindness and hurt. If kindness is shown to you in a relationship, it’s being registered in you. Your relationship or friendship gets better with it, same way when someone hurt you; they withdrew from the emotional bank. If they keep on hurting you, they push to the point whereby you no longer care. True forgiveness is not an act, but an attitude of the strong. The weak don't forgive. Forgiveness is the highest and most beautiful form of love; in return you receive peace of mind and happiness.